We learn social bonding in the form of various types of relationships right from our childhood. The understanding gathered from the relationship with our parents gives us the first window to know, analyze and understand various facets of relationships and ways to manage and handle a relationship.
In the course of upbringing from a child to adolescent, one comes across various relationships including friends, finance or a spouse. To handle and manage our relations in a positive way, we all need to use certain social skills. These social skills become more important and relevant in a matrimonial relationship. Here, are 5 C’s of social skills one must know to keep your relationship going.
Consciousness: Knowledge of emotions and perceptions
Consciousness starts with self-awareness. Know yourself, a self-evaluation by understanding your own emotions and nature of attachment is the starting point before getting to know and analyze the emotional trigger points or moment and situation.
Being self-aware of your emotions helps in being prepared for having a flexible and positive responsive behavior for those emotions. It comprises the ability to identify emotions, the ability to harness and apply emotions in solving relationship problems and the ability to manage and regulate your own emotions. This further gives an appropriate foundation and opportunity now to gauge and understand the emotions of others and their motives to respond and effectively manage in a manner to improve your interpersonal relationship.
When one knows and understands the emotions and perceptions of his/her partner, it is easy to manage and regulate those emotions and perceptions.
Composure
Being conscious by self-awareness helps a person in the understanding of self emotions and emotions of others enabling him/her to have a better composure for handling the situation in a better and positive way. Thus, composure is another social skill helpful in managing emotions and maintaining a good relationship.
Understand that your emotional base in within you and not outside and therefore, no external force, situation or person can shake your emotional base unless you allow him/her to do so. You must have self-control on your emotions. Always remain focus on the end-goal of your marriage and remain calm.
It is always better to avoid an overreaction to a given situation. There has been a tendency in some people to walk out, however, beware of such avoidance attitude. Never blame your partner to a situation or at least avoid a direct or blunt reference of it.
Communication
In all relationships, communication is the most basic and important social skill required, as it helps in sharing feelings, emotions and other information between the partners.
There are certain rules for effective communication helping a partner in reaching out to the other partner. Communication being the pillar of all other social skills is a much sought after skill to be trained to have a better understanding of any relationship.
Collaboration
All relationships need nurturing and one of the important social skills is COLLABORATION, which helps in nurturing any given relationship. In marriage, giving space to your partner and helping each other to full fill their aspirations by Collaboration is one of the goals for creating a growth mindset for a relationship.
Collaboration is a great social skill to have, which depicts one of having higher emotional intelligence. In any relationship, interpersonal or office setup, one needs to be a team member. A person who is open to collaboration with his/her partner is a great asset and for the benefit of all. One can collaborate only when he/she is aware of the needs of others, therefore, self-awareness and being conscious is the first requirement to achieve the skill of collaboration.
Compassion
Compassion starts by giving up your ego, which is always a difficult task for most of us. However, understanding, acknowledging and putting the needs of others in front is the only way to show your compassion to others. Compassion and empathy is the most essential social skill in any interpersonal relationship.
You need to have the basic emotional intelligence to see and understand the other’s perspective and needs. Such understanding can only be gathered when you put yourself into the shoes of others.
We all are undergoing a difficult phase in our life due to #coronavirus. It is much more difficult for couples with not so secure attachment in the relationship and therefore, one will find a lack of these social traits in anxious attachment or avoidance attachment relationships. People with anxious attachment and avoidance attachment have a trust deficit issue leading to difficult communication and a higher state of anxiety.
However, when we are all went into quarantine state to avoid transmission of this #coronavirus, people with such anxious and avoidance attachments would need to find ways to reduce their anxiety in the relationship and also raised due to this difficult time. Try to increase your communication, if direct communication is difficult you can use WhatsApp or any other digital mode of communication.
Try and spend time on any of your hobbies would be a good idea to reduce any such anxiety and make good utilization of time.
The Author, Legal Mind Ajit Kumar, is a Divorce Coach, Family Mediator and an expert in conflict resolution besides being a practicing Divorce/Family Lawyer. If you are in a dysfunctional marriage and looking for a quick divorce, visit our website https://medvorce.com for a free registration by creating an account to find if you are qualified for a mutual and uncontested divorce.
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