You are likely to invest several years of your life and money in your divorce litigation. Most of the Divorce litigations are more likely to escalate the interpersonal conflict, as I have never seen the defending spouse share his/her emotions, hurt and grief in their defense/written statement but invariably be putting counter-allegations. Thus, Divorce Litigation is not easy and it takes away your social life, health and emotionally drains you. You can avoid all this by settling your divorce through divorce mediation. But, how to achieve a successful divorce mediation?
In this article/post today, you can learn to effectively prepare for successful divorce mediation in five simple points.
I had previously made a post on what is divorce mediation and how it works, you can read to know more detail, but basically the Divorce Mediation is a private confidential process facilitated by a neutral mediator to work out and settle the terms of divorce settlement of parties. So now having come to know about basic of Divorce mediation here are five points to effectively settle your Divorce mediation:-
1. Do your homework
You must have heard about 5 “P’s”, Prior Preparation Prevents Poor Performance. As a litigant entering into your Divorce mediation, you should know the effects of your case I know Court proceeding is something technical and as a layman you are not supposed to know each and every aspect of it but you should know the basic facts of your case. You are supposed to make an opening statement before a mediator disclosing your case your position and your interest so knowing your case is always advisable. You should be prepared to outline the issues before Mediator. The disputed facts or disputed questions between the divorcing couples. In all Divorce Mediations, there are basically five primary aspects; 1. Custody of the child; 2. Child support ; 3. Permanent Alimony; 4. Spousal Support; and 5. The distribution of assets or delivery of Stridhan. Therefore, it necessary to prepare beforehand and set your goal on and the options on how to settle on these five primary aspects of the divorce mediation.
2. Know your rights and obligation
Since Divorce Mediation requires your active participation it is advisable that you should avoid your agents by actively participating in Divorce Mediation. In every, Divorce Mediation besides the Primary Parties i.e., Divorcing Couple, there are parents and family members, which are in one way or other affected parties and called secondary parties. However, it is advisable to keep minimal involvement of secondary parties in Divorce Mediation, as their emotions, concerns, interests sometimes hijack the entire mediation process. You can better present your perspectives; your points and you can also understand the perspective of the others. You must also understand the financial aspect and set your goal in settling the primary aspects of the Divorce mediation, including the permanent alimony. Any amount can be settled with regard to permanent alimony between the parties.
3. Keep your emotions in control
It is but natural that in Divorce Mediation, the couple sometimes had the first opportunity to vent out their frustration, anger, hurt and grief of the situation in which they were in a marriage relationship and there is an outburst of all their emotions. However, it necessary to keep control of your emotions. Don’t use words to hurt the other party because it derails the entire Divorce Mediation. Prevent any personal comments and remarks, which may hamper the Divorce process, so avoid it. Be prepared that the other party might vent out their grudge in the divorce mediation, so you have to be responsive and patient.
4. Be prepared to negotiate and not to argue
Always be prepared to negotiate and not to argue. You have to negotiate smartly to lead to a settlement. Try to avoid making outright offers at the start of the mediation. You can negotiate better by using your legal position in the case but keep your parental access decision separate from your financial decision. Most people try to influence their visitation and custody rights of the child to claim more or to pay less in permanent alimony and other aspects of the divorce. Here, you should always think about the best interest of your child. Do not use the visitation and custody rights in exchange for your financial wants and needs.
5. Keep a lawyer with yourself throughout the mediation process.
You should keep the lawyer to advise you throughout the divorce mediation. A lawyer can always help you throughout the divorce mediation. During the negotiating process or during the final drafting of the settlements to see that the terms are for your own benefit and workable.
Question for Readers:
How a wife should react to the situation when the Husband is consciously trying to avoid giving financial support to wife and children?
If you have any questions feel free to make a comment below so that I can help you further. You can further give suggestion for a new topic on any aspect of Divorce Mediation and Relationship to make a new post. If you are in a dysfunctional marriage and looking for a quick divorce, visit our website https://medvorce.com for a free registration by creating an account to find if you are qualified for a mutual and uncontested divorce. Let’s Start a WhatsApp chat.
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